Wife, Mummy, Nurse: Support With Integrity {Breastfeeding Blog Hop}

26 January 2012

Support With Integrity {Breastfeeding Blog Hop}

When a woman becomes pregnant, there are so many questions she is asked.  Some are asked out of curiosity and others out of militancy.  Such as: Are you going to have a natural childbirth or are you going to have interventions?  Are you having a home birth, birth center birth, or hospital birth?  Co-sleep or have the baby sleep in their own room from the beginning?  Etc. 

The questions go to breastfeeding as well.  Too many times we have such a high view of ourselves {including me} that we think the way we did it is THE right way.  A mom might say, "I'm back at work, pumping every three hours, and I'm still not producing enough.  I have to supplement with formula."  We might gasp and say, "Breastfeeding is SO MUCH better than formula.  How dare you give your baby formula."  Note: My husband and in-laws gave my daughter formula a few times.  I didn't want it to be done and hated it.  The first time Drew gave Charis formula I cried for an hour.  But, sometimes I didn't have enough milk pumped in the freezer or some spilled or I was cancelled and the milk I took out of the freezer the night before was wasted, and I was not able to replace it as quickly as I would have been able to had I worked, or I had to be at the hospital until 9:00 PM because my patient was crashing that day and had to do catch up charting.  Many might think this was horrible.  I don't care.  Charis is still nursing to this date, and it did not hurt breastfeeding.  We need back off and start supporting other moms with breastfeeding.  

Join me in the Support With Integrity pledge.  

• I PLEDGE to use my energy to help defuse dogmatic battles about what technique, position, frequency, equipment, duration or organization a woman chooses for breastfeeding. I affirm that my time is best spent directing my positive, encouraging support toward helping mamas successfully breastfeed.
• I PLEDGE to keep my ego in check, while treating other breastfeeding boosters, lactation facilitators, breastfeeding organizations, and mothers respectfully, knowing that we're all working toward the common goal of providing breast milk for babies. I also welcome respectful disagreement with my own opinions and accept that disruptive disagreement is counter to the goal of helping mamas feed their babies.
• I PLEDGE to agree that there are many right ways to breastfeed a baby. A breastfeeding mother should not feel pressure or judgment to perform a specific way. There isn't a "wrong way" as long as the breast milk is flowin' and the baby is growin'.
By displaying the Support with Integrity badge and signing the pledge, I agree to hold hands and help mamas get what they need to make breastfeeding work for them, no matter how they choose to do it. If a mama and baby are making it work, I'll stand and cheer them on from the sidelines.
Caveat: This is not a place to judge those who choose not to or cannot breastfeed. This is a pledge to be supportive of all those who choose to support breastfeeding.


  1. Thank you for taking the pledge and thank you for relaying your story. As a mom who supplemented (and breastfed to a year) I appreciate knowing there are women out there who won't judge me. I've been hard enough on myself for that one ;)

  2. glad you signed the pledge and thanks for linking up with the hop with week!

  3. Thanks for sharing your story! I signed the pledge, too!