Wife, Mummy, Nurse: Cosleeping

11 February 2012


Before my daughter was born, we had a bassinet for her to sleep in for the first few weeks and bought a crib to put her in about 1 month after she was born.  The first night, we were home from the hospital Charis did not sleep.  I was up at 4:00 AM, talking with my mum {no make that crying with her}, and had no idea how I was going to survive the next 18 years with a baby who was not sleeping.  Mummy told me, "Don't be afraid to bring her in bed with you if need be.  You can breastfeed her lying down."

It was like a light bulb went off in my head.  Why didn't I think of that?  Unfortunately, we often hear negative remarks about co-sleeping and before Charis was born, I did not want to be THAT parent.  I quickly became THAT mum.  It is much easier for me to nurse her lying down than it was to get up 4+ times a night, and I felt more rested than I previously did.  I do want to add though that there were times that Charis did not sleep with us, and those were the few times I had a glass of wine shortly before sleeping, which I did at my cousin's wedding and sister's wedding {both times I had two glasses} or took medication that would make me groggy, such as Benadryl.

We co-slept until our daughter was about 12-13 months old.  She started waking up at night and want to play.  She would cry and cry as I would hold her, but when we put her in the crib, she went right back to sleep.  In one sense I miss having her next to us, but in another sense I'm glad she's reached that stage where she doesn't need to be right next to me in order to fall asleep.  It's bittersweet.

1 comment:

  1. I told myself our children would never be in our bed. It did not last past the first night. Our son cried and cried and only snuggling him at night those first few nights maintained our sanity. He would wake, I'd nurse him, and then he'd go back to sleep. We removed the pillows and ensured we were safe to sleep with him (no sleep agents etc.) and we swaddled him up, too. We did the same with our daughter. Co-sleeping can be safe - common sense needs to be exercised. It sounds to me like we have similar philosophies.

    By the way, yes, those are 12 hours shifts are in 5 days our of 7. It's a student thing - I only have a small amount of time in urgent care and I have to soak it all up when I can. This is the only week I'll be doing that. Then it will be 12 hours shifts two to three times a week - much more manageable. 12 hours on the floor and 12 hours as a NP at a clinic are very, very different.