Wife, Mummy, Nurse: Lessons Learned {#BFBlogHop}

10 January 2013

Lessons Learned {#BFBlogHop}

Before my daughter was born, I had no idea that being a mother was hard. Rewarding, but hard.    People felt very free to give me suggestions-on sleep training, how often I should breastfeed, how long I should breast feed-even though I was not asking for their suggestions.  Thankfully, I did not listen to their "help" and proceeded to handle things as I had been.

Looking back a few things I learned:

  • Cherish the time you have your children.  Charis has grown up SO quickly.  
  • The 3 AM feedings don't last forever.  They were hard.  Here I had a baby who just wanted to nurse, sleep, nurse, poop, nurse, nurse, nurse. But now, I sometimes miss those.
  • Memorize Scripture.  During the early morning breastfeeding sessions, I often sang Psalms, especially 113:9-"He gives the barren woman a home, making her the joyous mother of children. Praise the LORD!" 
  • When friends offer to come and help, take friends up on their offers to help cook, clean, do laundry, etc.  {This is the one thing I wish I had done; I was too proud to say yes, so instead I felt swamped a lot the first few months.}  
  • Don't hurry to have as many children in as short of a time as possible. Yes, I believe that children are blessings, but I also think that too often we as women, especially in the church, compete with each other over how many children we have, whether we home school, etc.  My ultimate blessing is found in Christ.  {This too I need to tell myself often. Ultimately, I need to look and see if my actions are Christlike.}  
What did you learn as being a new mother?
What would you tell yourself now?
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  1. Number two really stood out to me because that's where we are again right now. Erik must be going through the 2-week-old growth spurt because he nursed nearly every hour last night, leaving me pretty groggy this morning. But you're right - these moments are fleeting and there's something nice about just you and a tiny baby being awake in the quiet wee hours of the morning. I also find it's a great time to turn to God in prayer. There are rarely quiet moments when daylight comes in this household! lol

    1. Thanks! When my daughter was 2 weeks, I watched many DVDs {Anne of Green Gables, Pride and Prejudice, Sense and Sensibility, Cranford, etc.}, as weel as reading many books. It definitely helped the time go by.

    2. Ok, we definitely have the same taste in books and movies! :-)

  2. 'The 3 AM feedings don't last forever. They were hard. Here I had a baby who just wanted to nurse, sleep, nurse, poop, nurse, nurse, nurse.' -- It's definitely good to be reminded of that. When in that moment sometimes it can feel like those nights are NEVER going to end.