Wife, Mummy, Nurse: Breastfeeding and Sex {#BFBlogHop}

14 February 2013

Breastfeeding and Sex {#BFBlogHop}

This post speaks about breastfeeding and sex, along with the possible problems one can have because of breastfeeding.  I'm not crass and believe that there is a place for talking about breastfeeding and sex. I hope others may find the information useful.

After Charis was born, there was no way I wanted to have sex again and part of the reason was that I had no clue what to expect and didn't like the new curves from being pregnant.  I often wished I could speak with someone who would tell me what possible things to expect and that everything was going to be fine... but I didn't have people around to ask.  I am a Christian and too often in Christian circles, instead of viewing sex as a wonderful gift God gave for a husband and wife to enjoy together, we view sex as gross. Those who talk about sex are viewed as having a problem with sexual sin.

I was thankful for books and websites because a few authors and bloggers were not ashamed to write about it.  Yes, I spoke with Drew, but obviously he had no personal experience with what to expect after having a baby either.

What to expect when you are breastfeeding and resuming sex after having a baby:

  1. Vaginal dryness.  When you are breastfeeding, your estrogen is lower which can cause vaginal dryness.  When having sex, two things you can do to help ease the discomfort from vaginal dryness are taking it slow and getting an over the counter lubricant.
  2. Milk release, especially when having an orgasm.  The same hormone which releases breast milk is released during sex.  This is not necessarily disgusting; you and your husband may even have fun with it.  But, if you want to avoid your milk releasing, try breastfeeding your baby before having sex.
On a personal note, if you have concerns about resuming sex after giving birth, then talk to your husband about those concerns. Let him know what your fears are and be willing to talk openly with trusted female friends and your health care provider about these fears too.

Is there anything you did not expect to happen?
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  1. The milk release can be pretty hilarious so long as you and your partner are easy going about it. Haha

  2. I always wear a bra during it now. I think my hub is scared for the milk release!

  3. My husband found himself to be quite entertained by the whole milk ejection reflex, especially during the early days when all you had to do was touch them to get the sprinklers going. He definitely found them to be more amusing than a turn on and I gotta admit that it was kinda (very) annoying to have him always try to fondle me just so he could get a quick giggle when they would 'squirt'.... men!

  4. This is so important!
    I fee like it is not talked about as much as it should be.
    Its OKAY to have sex if you are a breastfeeding mom :)