Wife, Mummy, Nurse: Currently {February 1, 2016}

01 February 2016

Currently {February 1, 2016}

My eyes on the Iowa caucus. Having lived in Iowa for 9 years, I have friends who will be voting tomorrow, so I'm interested to see how it turns out for the candidates. I am not a fan of any of the front runners, on either side. More and more, it seems Republicans and Democrats are basically the same. They want power and prestige and will say whatever they think will get them elected.

Read The 5 Love Languages. The first completed book I've "read" this year. I'm participating in #26BOOKSwithBringingUpBurns this year (and audiobooks count). I was searching for audiobooks on Hoopla and decided to listen to Chapman's book because it's a book with a number in the title. As of January 31, 1/26 books is now read.

Chapman's thesis is there are 5 love languages: 1. Words of affirmation, 2. Receiving gifts, 3. Acts of service, 4. Quality time, and 5. Physical touch. My two primary love languages are physical touch and acts of service. Drew's love language is words of affirmation. Overall I enjoyed this book. Since words of affirmation is not my love language, I sometimes downplay its importance for Drew. I often (wrongly) think, "How many times does he need me to complement him? It seems like I'm saying the same thing over and over, again and again." Hearing words of affirmation from me is important to Drew.

Some things should be taken with a grain of salt. I did not agree that I request, not demand things from Drew. In our marriage, there have been times when both of us needed to be hit over the head with a 2 by 4. We needed to use discernment about when we needed to sit down and have a serious conversation; there are times in marriage when it's appropriate to bring up issues that one sees in his or her spouse and talk, pray, repent, and forgive each other. One thing I noticed with many of the examples Gary Chapman gave is the couples had stopped communicating their wants, needs, and desires with their spouse. Husbands and wives need to be open and honest with each other.

What book have you read recently? Have you read The 5 Love Languages? If so, what did you think of it?

11 comments:

  1. Yes, I've read this book and Hubby and I loved it! We learned quite a bit about ourselves!

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  2. This is an amazing book! I recommend it for any couple wether on their first year of marriage or celebrating over 50 years!

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  3. I think the 5 Love languages are spot on! My hubby and I have to work hard to love each other in ways each other understands.

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  4. Good Book to be reading at this time. So timely!

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  5. Awesome choice. My hubby says that I have all five of the love languages in equal amounts. Guess he has his work cut out for him!

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  6. Yes, I've read The Five Love Languages--such excellent wisdom. Jenny and I had fun discussion our own love language with each other, as well as trying to figure out the love languages of our kiddos. This book is not only an excellent read, it's a great conversation starter too.

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  7. The 5 Love Languages is a great book! It's been great for my marriage, and for my parenting (there's a kids take on it too)

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts on the book!

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  8. I have not read the actual book before yet, but have heard/been a part of teachings that are based out of it. I think it's wonderful! My husband and I actually took a love language test when we first started dating, but it's been funny how in some ways, the ways we feel loved have changed over the years since that time we first took it and were introduced to the idea. Thanks for sharing!

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  9. Woohoo for reading the 5 Love Languages!!!! I haven't read the book but I love the concept!

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  10. I haven't read this book, but I've taken the quiz.

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  11. I just finished a book club about the 5 Love Languages of Children. It's a great book!

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