When I announced I was expecting my first child, it seemed that everyone had an opinion about something. Instead of sending my child to public school, I should homeschool, but I should do it exclusively at home-not use any co-ops, tutorials, or Classical Conversations. Or, I should not let my daughter celebrate Halloween because that's "celebrating Satan". I should breastfeed exclusively for 6 months, but stop as soon as my daughter reached 12 months old. I should not co-sleep with my daughter because think how that affects your marriage. These were just a small portion of the comments I received, from friends in the church. The world has so many more opinions about how I raise my children.
About the Book:
Unnatural Mom gives you permission to say that mothering doesn’t always come naturally to you. Parenting expert and self-proclaimed unnatural mom Hettie Brittz helps you…About the Author:
—Recognize how unrealistic our culture’s standards of mothering are—Move beyond the myths of “supermom”—Complete a profile to determine your own parenting style—Understand and forgive the mothers who hurt you—Embrace your capabilities as well as your challenges
Hettie Brittz is an author, international speaker, and one of South Africa’s foremost voices on parenting advice. She is the developer of the Evergreen Parenting Course and Tall Trees Profiles. Hettie and her husband, Gospel singer Louis Brittz, live in South Africa with their three children.My thoughts:
What is an (un)Natural Mom? "An (un)Natural Mom is any mom who finds some everyday aspect of motherhood so challenging that she experiences shame, fear, or even despair." (p 14) I don't experience shame, fear, or despair everyday, but I find myself quick to be angry at my children at least once. (It does not always show outwardly, but if you were to cut my heart open, you'd see black.)
This book was not quite what I was expecting. I thought there would be more about how unrealistic our culture's standards of mothering are and moving beyond the myths of "supermom", but 6 out of 9 chapters in (un)Natural Mom were devoted to the parenting-style profile and gave examples for the various types of parenting-styles. I enjoyed reading the different styles, but it seemed more like a "how to" book than a book about relying on Jesus. There were verses in the book, but instead of pointing to Christ, they pointed back to the parenting-style profile.
My favorite quote (responding to the question: Who first called you by the name Mom?) is found on page 252:
Our first calling came from God Himself. When He allowed you to conceive a child, whether in your own body or not, He called you Mom, long before anyone knew.Do you find it hard to be a mom? Are there things your children do that just push your buttons the wrong way? I was given this book for the purpose of review. All opinions are my own, and I was not compensated in anyway?