In Total family makeover, Melissa Spoelstra writes about 8 things that parents can be doing now to make disciples at home: spending time in prayer, reading God's Word, growing through mentoring, finding community in the church, serving others, taking time to rest, giving back to God, and sharing your faith. In each chapter, you will find two major sections: modeling and training. Melissa includes Scripture verses throughout this book to help emphasize the importance of the above practices.
To be honest, I was a little uncertain when I signed up to receive this book. When I see a book that has a title that includes "8 practical steps to making disciples at home", I automatically become more hesitant to read it. I wondered, "Will she talk about God's grace and plan in her book? Or will she place all the responsibility on the parents?"
I loved how Melissa opened up the book by writing that our children are not our report cards. She wrote, when we use our children's behavior as our parenting measure rod, we: pass judgment on others when their children are not behaving like they should, going back and forth between pride and shame based on our children's behavior, and envying friends when we read (or hear) about their children's achievement.
In every single section, I was convicted of at least one or two things. For example, in chapter 1-spending time in prayer, Melissa wrote that we are to pray in faith and that nothing is too small for God. Last week when my daughter slammed her finger in the car door, I stupidly told her, "Your nail will probably fall off." She immediately started crying and said, "I don't want my nail to fall off. What if it doesn't grow back? Can we pray that my nail will stay?" I started laughing (to myself) and thought, "Silly girl. This is not that important." But to her, it was important. There was nothing wrong in her request, and I should have been more sympathetic to her plight.
The good news is, I enjoyed reading this book. My above fears were unsubstantiated. There were many times Melissa wrote and reminded us to be patient, that God's timing is not our timing, and that we are to trust in God.
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